Women Who Run with the Wolves

I have returned and returned to this book, ever since the late nineties,, when I had a copy of the audio book on cassette and used to play it over and over again in my car.  I reference this book often.  It's one of those gems that continues to circle around, weaving itself into my life.  

I thought to search for my notes on this book, here, and was surprised to come up empty handed.  It prompted me to visit my journals from 2021 (the last time I took another deep dive into the book).  

Here are a combination of those notes and what I referenced today:

"So many of us start out in a desert.  We feel disenfranchised.  We feel alienated...The desert is a place where small things grow.  The life in the desert is often small and brilliant but it's not lush, like a forest...And many of us have lived lives like that where there's a little cactus with a brilliant red flower and then you go 500 miles and there is nothing.  Many of us have learned to live like that because we have been born into families, that, to us, were like deserts.  For whatever reason we were born into families that were not able to sustain us and make us flourish with a wealth and abundance of ideas and creativity and relationships."

"...you always had this feeling that you were somehow born into the wrong family...(these mistaken zygotes), their mothers and fathers look at them and don't understand how this person got here, who this person is, and how to raise them."

"There is usually tremendous suffering...Often, from the time they are babies, they are taken captive, domesticated and told that they are not right...they were trained to remain contained, to never really spread their wings, and, especially, never to find those who were like themselves."

"In a world of natural, there are no ravenous animals...Wolves will only kill what they have to eat...Surplus killing only happens after famine."

"Women have a soul - need to express themselves...I believe that intuition is the greatest gift women have."

"A lot of women who are not accepted by their families will go on tremendous quests for acceptance...in an attempt to try to prove to their family that they have worth...(The answer lies in) not relying on family of origin but to rely on one's own intuition."

"If we don't allow our vivid energies (opinions, thoughts, ideas), they go into shadow (subconscious) and then one day they burst out the sidewall."

"If you are connected to your instinctual (intuitive) self, there are at least three choices.  If you are not connected, you always only think you have one choice (and it's a yucky one)."

"Being a hostage or being captured is similar to a computer virus."

"You have a God-given birth right to blossom whenever you want."

"Feeling what we feel is better than feeling nothing."

"She is often the broken winged one, who everyone says she's been doing it wrong all along until finally, they realize, she's been doing it right..."

"For those of us who have spent more than enough time being an outcast, who were sensitive, who ran bloody at the lightest scrape, you have to shelter yourself, have a protective preserve...You have to become a psychic ecologist...It's a struggle,  It's not easy."

"For a woman, the more natural she can become (not having to do and be a persona), the more she knows the mysteries that lay in the bones."

"We have to take our ideas to a place where  there is support for them.  Finding support is the first step."

"We regain focus by sitting, rocking, comforting ourselves.  This renews ideas (spirit).  What we want to do is run around, trying to fix, organize, etc.  We're being reactive."

"A wolf is not consumed with mating, is not consumed with the day to day...There are times to be with and times to be away...A relationship has to be rhythmic.  It has to have lots and lots of space for being apart, being together, being side by side but doing different things.  It has to have lots and lots of room and lots of space...For a woman, her true mate is within."

"I have never met a woman who is wildly creative and who has been suppressed, who isn't filled with rage."

"(Learn to) give the enraged patience, time and kindness.  It will pass...Bridge rage with spiritual food.  Eventually everything will calm down and you'll be able to move ahead."